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John W. DeForest's quote on temptation (for teen-agers): "It is not the great temptations that ruin us; it is the little ones".

I consider myself an expert in teenage love issues - not because I got specialised training on this particular subject, but because I was once a teenager myself, obviously. So it's like been there, done that. Well, all of us, adults, were once teenagers obviously. We, at 'some' stage,could never be convinced that our parents knew what they were talking about.

When I look back at my teen years and my experiences at that age, the one thing I’m most proud of is that I’ve been able to think with my head, and not with my heart, when circumstances called for it. I’ve been able to use my wisdom of the head, as far as matters of the heart were concerned, no matter how much in love I was (or thought I was). That is crucial for every teenager in a love/romantic relationship.

Teenage relationships: Here's what I learnt about dealing with peer pressure, pressure from boyfriends and being firm & confident

I share my experience of teenage relationships and peer pressure

I left my first boyfriend - whom I was as in love with as any love-struck teenager could be - when he insisted that I prove my love to him by sleeping with him. I was sixteen and too proud, too wise and too knowledgeable & informed to be trigged by a boy and to be fooled by love.

I was too special to have to risk my youth, my future, my health and my relationship with God, just for fear of losing some boy who thought I was so in love with him that I would do anything & everything he wanted, just to keep him. Well, guess what? I let him leave. Infact, I insisted he leaves; and I’ve never felt prouder! That experience has taught me never to let a boy or a man think that he can use my love for him against me, without me doing anything about it.

This personal experience of teenage relationships has also taught me to pride myself by being faithful in my relationships, as an adult. Yes, teenage relationships do teach us lessons we carry into adulthood, be they good or bad. Right now, as an adult, I know that I am way too special and smart to be trigged, sweet-talked, seduced, lied to, and manipulated by any man.

My wishes and hope for teenagers in relationships: take care of yourself

Teenage relationships : I hope you draw some lessons from this

You may be wondering why I’m writing about this experience. Well, I wish that, you, as a teenager in a romantic or "intimate" relationship, could also pride yourself by the number of boys/men you’ve turned down, not by the number you have slept with - which sadly seems to be the trend with teenagers nowadays. Believe me, it gives a much pleasant feeling to be able to look back and say, “He couldn’t have me”. What a feeling! I promise you, No amount of teenage sex or "teenage dating" could ever make up for that feeling of pride, self respect, a feeling of purity and lasting self worth.

TEENAGE relationships aren't necessarily bad, but teenage sex can have some very drastic and life changing consequences. The results of teen sex are never really good. If you don’t fall pregnant or contract some disease or another, you will most probably be hurt - very, very deeply. Sex is meant for people who are at least old/mature enough to deal with whatever consequences their sexual activities might throw at them - phyisically, emotionally, spiritually, socially and financially. You, as a teenager, might feel ready for it, because biologically you actually are; but the truth is that you are not emotionally mature yet to deal with the consequences.

If he (or she for that matter) threatens to leave you because you wouldn’t sleep with him/her; then he/she is certainly not worth it. Just let them go; and run - don’t walk, in the opposite direction. You have got your whole life ahead of you, your bright and beautiful future; full of great opportunities. There will be plenty of time to do that later. The wait will all be worthwhile at the end. Never let peer pressure destroy your life. Trust me on this one.

Teenage relationships: remember these words of wisdom:

“It is better to be hated for what you are, than to be loved for what you are not” – Andre Gide, French Writer

“A ‘No’ uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a ‘Yes’ uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble” - Gandhi

I wish you wisdom, confidence and a good judgement in your teenage relationship(s).

Teenage reads: "recommended books for teenagers"

Forget Your Ex In Just 24hrs Helps Individuals Forget Painful Ex-Memories After Break Ups. Forget-Ex!

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Chicken soup for the teenage soul - This book, the latest in the hugely popular Chicken Soup for the Soul series, contains stories, poems, and cartoons relating to the specific troubles that traumatize teenagers everywhere. It is packed with humour and nice stories for teens.

For young women only helps girls understand men - the mystery of "boys will be boys" is unpacked for girls.

In The Primal Teen, Strauch, medical science and health editor at the New York Times, sets out to offer reassurance to parents baffled by their kids' seemingly irrational and erratic behavior.

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