"DIVORCE ADVICE": HOW TO DEAL WITH, MANAGE AND OVERCOME THE BREAKDOWN OF YOUR MARRIAGE AND THE OFTEN DEVASTATING "DIVORCE PROCESS"
"DIVORCE ADVICE": WHEN A MARRIAGE BREAKS DOWN, YOU NEED "SOUND DIVORCE ADVISE"
Divorce is very often a very traumatic experience for many couples. The trauma of betrayal and feelings of guilt, blame and worthlessness can make it even more traumatic and unbearable for everyone involved. People often indicate that those feelings can be worse than feelings of loss through death. This is probably because of the extent of abuse, rejection and betrayal that often precedes most divorces. With death there is normally no sense of guilt (at least not as much as in a breakdown of a marriage), failure or betrayal (unless of course a person committed suicide). With death there is longing and ‘pity’, which are lacking in this situation.
But there are situations whereby it becomes inevitable for people to part ways. Parting ways can sometimes lift a huge weight on people’s shoulders, especially where children have been traumatized by their parents’ bad relationship. In some instances, children would even wish their parents would just part ways, because of the emotional stress and distress they would be experiencing.
When it comes time for two people to go their separate ways, it is important for the couple to think objectively with their heads, and not their hearts (get advice from some divorce advisors. It is difficult to imagine a smooth, healthy, hassle-free divorce, but it is not unattainable.
"EASIER DIVORCE": WHAT COULD MAKE THE DIVORCE PROCESS LESS STRESSFUL? - SMOOTH DIVORCE ADVICE:
DIVORCE ADVICE: what makes the process easier? What makes it difficult?
1. When both parties agree that it is in everyone’s best interest to part ways
2. When the couple have gone through the anger and addressed all underlying emotional issues, with the help of Counselors if necessary
3. When the betrayed partner understands that the break-up of the marriage or the betrayal itself is not an attack on his/her being
4. When people are willing to negotiate and share fairly
5. When there is no feelings of revenge
6. When the couple understands that children need both their parents and it is in their best interests that the parents at least just get along well.
"STRESS-FREE DIVORCE" ADVICE: What makes divorce extra difficult, what makes it easier?
MORE DIVORCE ADVISE: Factors that usually make the dirvoce process unbearable, are, but not limited to:
1. Anger and unresolved emotions
4. Unfair custody requirements of one or both parties
As a couple or person facing or going through divorce, you need to understand that even though it is okay to feel sadness, pain and loneliness; it is unhealthy to be feeling angry and revengeful at this stage. Custody battles are not fair on the children and it shows no maturity to be wanting revenge in any way.
People usually revenge by means of finances and children. You need to know and understand that this will never serve you well, it will just bring even more stress. Divorce can be both financially and emotionally costly and strenuous. The breakdown of your marriage is a stressful event as it is, so do yourself a huge favour and decide to divorce in a fair and square manner.
You may need to get proffesional help and advice on divorce issues.
Bottom line: When your marriage or your relationship breaks, don't break with it! If the break-down or failure of your marriage leaves you struggling financially, with a single income, empower yourself and find a way to earn a "second income". Hope you will take note of our divorce advice and "divorce peacefully" & honourably!
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