GODPARENTS AND GOD-PARENTING: WHAT IS IT AND WHAT ARE THE RESPONSIBILITIES?
"GOD-PARENTING" or BEING"GODPARENTS"
GODPARENTING is usually associated with baptisms of children in a Christian religion. Because children are too young to commit themselves to the Christian faith, trusted family members and/or friends are called to represent the child during the baptismal.
The actual baptism is then done with an understanding that, the child's baptismal representatives will take responsibility for the child's good, moral upbringing. They are to make sure that the child is taught about the christian faith. It is a commitment that these representatives make to God.
A GODPARENT'S ROLE IN THE UPBRINGING OF A GODCHILD
As mentioned above, a religious representative at the baptismal or a god-parent makes a commitment to teach the child about God, and to help raise the child according to christian values and principles.
This person should therefore be an active participant in their godchild's upbringing. A "god-parent" serves as a leader, role model and a mentor. Their role goes way beyond the baptismal. It is a life-long role; they are to constantly teach, set an example through their own lifestyles, and pray for the god-child.
CHOOSING A GODPARENT: HOW TO MAKE A GOOD CHOICE
"HOW TO CHOOSE A GOD-PARENT"
We've already talked about the significant role of godparenting. The decision to choose one for your child should be carefully cosidered, given the responsibilities that come with the role. Here is a guide on some of the attributes to look for:
1. It should be somebody that you know significantly well,
2. Preferably belonging to the same christian faith
3. They should close to the family and generally have good relations to the family
4. Should have some interest in the child (you will know if this person loves or cares for your child naturally)
5. It should be someone whose lifestyle you like and would like for your child
6. Someone who is excited about his/her role and can commit to it - they should not be burdened or forced
7. They need to understand what the role entails
8. In a nutshell: a good teacher & mentor; a trustworthy, prayerful, God-fearing and -loving person
Some churches allow a parent to double as a godparent, especiallythe same-sex parent. This reminds the parents of their constant role and of their promise to teach, pray for and set a good example for their chld.