SILENT TREATMENTS: WHY THE SILENT TREAT NOW?
SILENT TREATMENTS: why is she/he not talking to me
SILENT TREATMENTS are very common in relationships - be they professional, friendships, family or romantic relationships. The most common of these are in friendships and romantic relationships.
Dealing with silent treatments
Dealing with silent treatments: how to respond to the silence
Silent treats do not happen only between spouses/lovers. they can also happen between friends and colleagues. But what do you do when your partner, colleague or friend suddenly stops talking to you - without warning? Why do people resort to 'not being on speaking terms' instead of resolving their issues?
Like in any other relationship problem, the reasons and types of silent treatments vary greatly. People think that it is only or mostly women who give silent treatments - attributing these moodiness to PMS or some other hormonal imbalances or biochemical reasons. In romantic relationships or marriages, Men also do resort to being silent. Men have hormones too, you know. There's even the so-called male-menopause or mid-life crisis.
Whatever the reasons for silent treatments, it is clear that mature people who have no communication problems wont resort to sealing their lips when things are tough. sometimes people keep quite to avoid apologising when they are wrong. These types would shout and get angry, and then give the silent treat to protect themselves from the looming danger they create in their minds.The danger of being attacked, blamed or told that they had done wrong.
The worst of the silent treats has to be the one without any obvious reason or trigger. This is when all is fine and well one minute, and the next you are talking to yourself. This is moodiness at its best and people who act like this need to get help or risk hurting any relationship they ever form.
How do I respond to the silence?
The answer is very simple - communication. Yes, break the silence and then make sure you prevent future treats right there and then. Just swallow your pride & do it. Life is too short - imagine you and your partner parting on such a stupid, ugly note. Pride is not worth that much! Talk. If your partner is mature enough, they will talk to you.