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CROSS RACIAL RELATIONSHIPS: Dealing with society's expectations and unimpressed family membersInter-racial / Mixed-race, Trans-racial or Cross racial relationships are amongst the most challenging relationships you may come accross. The couple involved might be able to deal with the fact that they are of different races; but in most cases, society is still not accommodating of mixed-race relationships. Most often than not, you’ll find unimpressed family members in at least one of the pair’s families. These issues may present a lot of unnecessary stress on the couple involved. We cannot ignore the fact that love knows no colour nor boundaries. Infact, it is through ‘being different’ that love is genuinely expressed and proven. It is much easier to love someone of the same race, but it is challenging to love someone of a different race and/or culture, and that in its own must take a daring personality. That, in its own should makes cross racial or inter-racial relationships much more special. I don’t think people just get into mixed-race relationships because they like controversy or like to be different. They obviously feel something for each other, something that is deeper than the threat 7 pain of all the prejudices they are likely to be faced with. Their love for each other outweighs all the possible obstacles and discriminations the world puts on mixed race/cross racial relationships.
The positive side of cross racial or interracial relationships: there are benefits to "black and white" relationshipsWhen you look at it, there are more benefits to cross racial relationships than there are with same race ones. They are potentially much more fun and educational. I mean what could be better than getting into another race/people’s backgrounds, culture and customs than through someone you love?It can be stimulating and those involved won’t ever have to make ignorant assumptions or generalizations about the other race. They will be better equipped to associate with people from different backgrounds and much more willing to learn about people’s cultures. That makes them more sociable and likeable because human beings by nature like to know that they are understood and respected. Coming to unconvinced/unimpressed family members; most of us already know how our families feel about cross racial relationships in general; so we are informed well ahead of time. You’d know for instance that your Father is inflexible and a perhaps a racist and wouldn’t have one of his children involved with someone of a different race, no matter what race it is. If that is the case, you may want to prepare them as best you can, for the ‘shock’. Ask your dad these questions: 1. What are his wishes for you in your relationship / marriage 2. How badly does he want those things for you? 3. Would it then matter who provided them? 4. What if the person was not good looking, for example? 5. What if there was only a single person that could provide his wishes for you; provide your wishes and make you happier than you’ve ever been? 6. Would he accept that person? 7. What if that person was from a different background? Different race? He must look at your interests first. If he really wants the best for you, then he must be willing to accept the person who, in your mind, will give you that best. Why make a fuss about the gift wrap when it contains your most desired possession; your idea of the perfect gift? Never miss out on a blessing because it is not packaged the way that you expected. My advice regarding mixed-race marriages: provided you are not doing anything immoral, don’t be confused by colour. Diversity is beautiful and without it, life would be dull, wouldn’t it?
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