"Incidentally, one of the most worrying problems in the impact of Western modernity on traditional culture is that it quite rapidly communicates its own indifference or anxiety or even hostility about age and ageing." ~ Rowan D. Williams


In this Issue of Let-Us-Relate! newsletter:-)

1. When mommy is older than daddy

2. Age-difference quotes


1. Older-woman-younger-man relationships/marriages


When one of my single girlfriends refused to date an eligible man because he was all of two months younger than her, stating that she would never wish to turn 40 or 50 before her husband does, I could hardly believe my ears. What difference does two months make anyway? Does it really matter who is older in a great relationship? Another friend said that marrying 'downward' would mean that the man has to either act a couple of years older, or the woman would need to act younger. Clearly, the more things change, the more they remain the same.

Women have always been disadvantaged when it came to choices about relationships and about their lives. Men are 'allowed' to drag to their old beds, girls young enough to be their grand-daughters, while women are looked at suspiciously if they date a man one year younger than them. While more and more women worldwide are dating younger and younger men, other seemingly open-minded women are helplessly still stuck in the past.

But wait until you hear this one. I could understand (a little bit) where my friends were coming from because I was once there myself - but for my eight year old son to exclaim that 'daddies should be bigger than mommies' - now that is beyond my comprehension. Where did he get that from? No, it did not come from us. I also wouldn't think it's merely because of the way it is at home because there's other 'sexist' stuff he throws at me sometimes - like implying that his dad pays for everything I own, despite knowing pretty well where my office is. Let's not even start about my 3 year old 's unsafe feelings whenever his dad is not home. Perhaps another story for another day?

Going back to the age thing - I believe that women who restrict themselves only to older men are doing just that - restricting themselves. By all means girlfriend, if he is mature, wise and all the stuff in between - go ahead and help yourself. You are the one who has to live with that person anyway, do not let society make your decisions for you. The only time when age matters is when you are a seventeen and HE or SHE is twenty-something. With each passing year, the gap closes. See the person, not the age.

But those who still believe strongly that a man should be older than his wife/girlfriend should also stay true to their feelings/beliefs and should not feel compelled to change. We appreciate the fact that others might have been burnt once too many times before and cannot help associating their bad experiences with the man's or woman's age.





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