SAYING NO ASSERTIVELY

"The basic difference between being assertive and being aggressive is how our words and behavior affect the rights and well being of others."

~ Sharon Anthony Bower

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In this Issue of Let-Us-Relate! newsletter:-)

1. SAYING NO ASSERTIVELY, NOT AGGRESSIVELY

2. I CHALLENGE YOU

3. QUOTES ABOUT 'BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF'

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1. SAY NO WITHOUT GUILT: ASSERTIVELY NOT AGGRESSIVELY

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Being a people-pleaser and never saying NO when necessary can leave you drained, stressed and even depressed. Here are some points to remember and to encourage you to say NO with confidence when it is called for:

1. You cannot be everything to everybody at all times, and that is okay

2. No matter how good you are, you can never satisfy every single person and satisfy yourself at the same time, and that’s okay

3. Try to do only what you can really, truly and happily handle

4. Get to grips with your fears – what is it you are afraid will happen if you said NO?

5. People get themselves into trouble all the time just because they couldn’t say no. Kids succumb to peer pressures because of the fear of losing their friends. Adults make unpopular and sometimes uncharacteristic decisions just to fit in. Believe in yourself and in your ability to think and decide for yourself - Get rid of making decisions based on fear.

6. Remember this: If your decisions and acts come from a place of love (love for yourself and others), you should be at peace with them

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1. BE CHALLENGED

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I challenge you to truly reflect on something you feel you should say no to but are afraid to do so - think deeply about how saying yes or no would make you (and the other person) feel and WHY it would make you (and them) feel that way. If the WHY is answered with a fear-inspired answer, then consider saying NO.

HOW TO SAY NO WITHOUT GUILT

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3. QUOTATIONS ABOUT SAYING NO AND BEING FAITHFUL TO YOURSELF

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"Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies."

~ Mother Teresa

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