"Father-Son Relationships"Father-Son relationships Just as the majority of women wish to have a daughter, most men naturally want to have a son. In some traditions, girls are seen as being of little or no value to the family since they’ll grow up and get married, whereas the son will keep the family name alive. Some families would continue having children until they have a son. It is important to look beyond traditions and family/societal ‘values & beliefs’ when it comes to raising children, more so when it comes to raising boys. "You are not raising children, you are raising adults" - Dr. Phil McGraw. The same sex parent is a very important role model for a child. In this case, a boy needs a father or at the very least, a father figure. Fathers need to challenge the customs when it comes to building good, meaningful relationships with their sons. A great father-son relationship can be very rewarding and invaluable for a gender that doesn’t open up easily, and doesn’t easily get in touch with or express their feelings.
Developing and maintaining a good father-son relationshipFather-son relationships: How to develop, nurture and maintain a good, healthy relationship with your sonAs a parent, your job is not to judge or command; it is to guide and nurture. A lot of fathers are having little or no relations/interactions with their sons because of being judgmental and/or too controlling. A father should guide, inform, educate, have fun with and accept his son(s). At the proper age, educate your son about adulthood, manhood, fatherhood, how to treat women, how to care for himself and his family, and other such things. Without embarrassing him, get involved in his activities and play with him. If he needs to be consoled, do not tell him he is a man; console him, hug him and tell him you are there for him. Above all, be a dad and lead by example! Sons are also supposed to create, encourage and enable a good communication environment with their dads. Respect is key. So are communication, honesty and openness. Realise that it is not easy being a parent and try and be a blessing to your parents. Understand where they come from and that they do mean well. Unless you have a tyrant for a father, there shouldn’t be a problem if you make yourself a good son to your dad.
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